We have a beer bench in our terrace facing the mountain. We love to have our lunch there, especially when the weather is good. In Barcelona, the weather is almost 80% good. 🙂
A few days ago, I asked Flo to spell Anagnorisis. Instead of spelling, he pronounced syllabically. I repeated, “can you spell it for me?”. He repeated in a frustrated voice proclaiming the word instead of spelling. We entered into a heated argument. We filled anger into the “angry cup”. That same night, we sat at our casual round glass table in the kitchen. Flo was going to dinner with his friends the next day. I reminded him about being responsible for and respecting the COVID-etiquette. As we have not emptied the previous “angry cup”, we entered yet into another heated argument. We each left the table angry after hurling hurtful words at each other without real meaning. Quite silly in a way, but we don’t see it at that moment as we look at our side of the wall.
It can be so easy to find conflicts. We need to take care should we get used to it! We have two choices. One is to continue being angry at each other and keep filling the “angry cup”, or to put more magic into the magic cup. This is what Magic for Couples will do.
- Agree together to do this exercise.
- Take three deep breaths
- Count 1 to 3
- Say together I LOVE YOU
- Smile
- Give a kiss
Guess what? We are good again! After all, we are encouraged to not go to sleep angry. Anger is poison to our body!
Try it and let me know if this helps. Besitos!
(another method: check out I LAUGH YOU)
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